Three Girls and a Mic ? Relationship Problems: Communicating

We know how hard it is to communicate with our girlfriend/boyfriend. Its even worse when your mad and you just can?t seem to get the RIGHT words out.

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This is sad. Instead of talking to each other we have turned to Google to solve our relationship problems.

Here are some tips on how to effectively communicate with your girlfriend/boyfriend:

Before attempting to have a discussion with your boyfriend about something of importance to you, try to narrow down exactly what it is you are trying to communicate. If you are bothered by a situation or feel there is an issue that needs to be resolved, keep the conversation to the point to avoid losing his attention. Present your feelings on the issue and give him an opportunity to react. Remember that body language is equally important as the words you choose when communicating. If your partner is responding to a statement and you are not making eye contact, sitting with your arms crossed, or making facial expressions that might convey mixed signals, he might feel that you are not open to his thoughts on the matter and simply shut down.

Communicating with success requires both people to give equal attention to listening and speaking. If you find you are doing all the talking, take a break and ask for your boyfriend?s input. Men can be particularly defensive if they feel they are being personally attacked, so be careful with how you phrase certain statements. Remember to use ?I? phrasing rather than ?you? phrasing, wording statements in such a way as to emphasize your own feelings or reactions to situations, rather than emphasizing that it is his specific behavior that is bothering you.

The single most important factor to remember when communicating with someone you care about is always to look at both sides of a situation. Mutual respect in a relationship will facilitate successful communication. If communication is particularly difficult in a relationship, you might want to consider whether it is worth the effort before you become more involved. If you are in a serious relationship and having trouble communicating effectively, consider seeking professional counseling if you both want the relationship to succeed.

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